It ends another year, twelve months in which our lives have been filled with changes, both positive and negative. Twelve months of experiences that may have made us mature. We may inevitably review all the events we have experienced, the most important moments and everything we have learned from them. Surely we get an idea of how we want the new year to go, what our illusions are and what we want to change or remain stable.
- 1 The new purposes
- 2 Set your priorities
- 3 Not big goals, but small steps
- 4 Put on facilities
- 5 Track
- 6 Don't be hard on yourself
However, it is when enumerating the new purposes when we may realize that we have left some, if not enough, goals to meet in the last year. We may not have been able to quit smoking, save an amount of money or play sports as we intended.
These three previous examples are not, in fact, somewhat random but the most common promises that many people make each year and are not able to keep.
Why does this happen? When we are aware of this type of failure, a sense of frustration and helplessness floods us and we may end up believing that we will never be able to achieve what we set out to do. And this is a big mistake. Most of the time we make proposals without knowing exactly how to comply and when we fail, we usually blame ourselves without mercy, instead of blaming the failure on a lack of programming and methodology. Something that behavioral psychologists know very well.
Today we explain the simple tips that will make your new year's proposals something more tangible, practical and easy to get, pay attention and aim!
Set your priorities
Maybe you have been carrying out time proposals that are not a real motivation for you. Perhaps what you thought motivated you years ago is not what you are looking for now and that is the reason why you fail again and again in your propositions. It may be that ascending in your work is not what you really want and if it is to carry out your own project or study a new career. If we do not know ourselves well and do not accept our true aspirations, we will not have the necessary impulse to carry them out. Sometimes these proposals have more to do with our health or physical, or our economy, situations that are not as aspirational as necessary. In that case, it will benefit you to read the next point.
Not big goals, but small steps
Of course, your goals can be great and even of enormous significance to you. But setting a goal in general is a big mistake. Charles Duhigg, author of "The power of habits" knows very well how to guide behavior to achieve these good changes we want. According to this author, one should not think of the New Year's resolutions as a resolution, but as a plan: "It is much more important than setting a distant goal, such as running a marathon, setting specific goals, immediate plans to start immediately"
This plan, in the case of a marathon could be "run 5 kms in a certain time". A time that fits our possibilities. And then another batch and so on until we have, little by little, managed to run the entire marathon.
If our purpose is to quit smoking, it is of little use to throw it into the air with determination if we do not have a strategy for it. Perhaps it would be easier to reduce the number of cigarettes, as well as to replace this habit with better ones or even seek professional help, so with time and strategy to forget this habit.
Put on facilities
If you have proposed a change in your life, try to get the best facilities to achieve it. If, for example, you have set out to go to the gym and train, do you think the proximity of the gym to which you sign up will be important? According to this study, it is and a lot. Those people who went to a gym that was 8 km from their home, went to it once a month. But those who went to a gym 6 km, came to go 5 times or more a month. This difference of two kilometers means greater comfort that enhances the motivation to achieve change. Therefore, make things as easy as possible It may be essential.
Keeping track of our steps and how we adjust to the strategies is a great support to stay focused on what we want to achieve, as well as motivated by our progress. Imagine that you try to lose weight but do not keep track of what you have lost or gained in recent months. By keeping a diary and seeing your progress you can improve strategies to alleviate your weaknesses as well as motivate you for the small achievements that you have been getting. For this you can use both a notebook or agenda and many apps that are specifically designed to record these processes.
Don't be hard on yourself
In the words of the doctor and clinical psychologist Jessamy Hibberd, “the biggest obstacle to getting new habits is self-criticism. Study after study shows how self-criticism is correlated with less motivation and worse self-control in contrast to those who are kind to themselves and support themselves just as they would a friend. Especially when confronting failure. ”
Understanding that we can all have made mistakes and find the motivation to change them is very important. People with high self-criticism may feel unable to achieve a goal, since the feeling of helplessness is too high. Behavioral psychologists have proven time and again, however, that both humans and animals can learn new habits with good practice and methodology. Even by failing, we can all learn new things if we face the fear of failure that prevents us from moving forward.
If this new year you have set your goals, from Psychoactive We encourage you to achieve them with motivation and energy. It is important that you share your goals with the people you trust, since the support of others is a great stimulus. Even if you think it can benefit you, you can go to a professional who advises you and helps you better plan your strategies to achieve the goals you want. We wish you a year full of success and fulfillment!
Links of interest
The Psychology Of New Year's Resolutions. //www.iflscience.com/brain/psychology-new-year-s-resolutions/
Lose weight? Check Start exercising? Check Stop smoking? Check //www.apa.org/helpcenter/resolution.aspx
The experts' guide to making - and keeping - your New Year resolutions //www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/dec/29/experts-guide-making-keeping-your-new-year-resolutions